Suddenly out of nowhere, a non-existent person becomes insignificantly important in our lives. Involuntarily, we give them a part of us, a fragile and breakable part. This makes us vulnerable. We idolize them, in a way. Everything about them seems so perfect and pleasant. We somehow relate anything and everything to them. We make them our topmost priority. We do all that it takes to make them stay. Everything seems all happy and pleasant when we are with them. You do everything for them because you think they mean the world to you. But then, they don’t think the same way!! You don’t get back what you give. And this, in a way, is disappointing. Because attachment and concern lead to expectations. And expectations lead to disappointment.
It doesn’t take that long to realize that we aren’t that important to them. And then, we try to make them stay, we try to keep them happy. We make them stay not because we want to be with them, but because we know that we wouldn’t be able to manage without them. And all this generally doesn’t work. You can’t really force a person to stay, when they don’t want to. Sooner or later, the real picture does come up, shattering all our hopes. Because they were the most important people in your life. You could never imagine your life without them.
So is it really fair? Giving someone undue importance in your life, when you know they don’t deserve it. Still, we let them take complete charge over what is ours. We are afraid of losing them, when we really don’t have them. And then moving on, after realizing that they don’t want you in their lives…… Is tough!! It’s almost impossible. With tears and pain, you try and forget them. But it’s never that easy. You’re reminded of every small little memory you have shared with them!
So, getting attached to someone is nothing but a series of self torture. It is a kind of a self-inflicted problem. You go through the rush, you go through the pain. That too when the other person is blissfully unaware of what you are going through. So even when we know that there is nothing good about it, we go for it. And why do we do that? Well, you could ask yourselves that.
It doesn’t take that long to realize that we aren’t that important to them. And then, we try to make them stay, we try to keep them happy. We make them stay not because we want to be with them, but because we know that we wouldn’t be able to manage without them. And all this generally doesn’t work. You can’t really force a person to stay, when they don’t want to. Sooner or later, the real picture does come up, shattering all our hopes. Because they were the most important people in your life. You could never imagine your life without them.
So is it really fair? Giving someone undue importance in your life, when you know they don’t deserve it. Still, we let them take complete charge over what is ours. We are afraid of losing them, when we really don’t have them. And then moving on, after realizing that they don’t want you in their lives…… Is tough!! It’s almost impossible. With tears and pain, you try and forget them. But it’s never that easy. You’re reminded of every small little memory you have shared with them!
So, getting attached to someone is nothing but a series of self torture. It is a kind of a self-inflicted problem. You go through the rush, you go through the pain. That too when the other person is blissfully unaware of what you are going through. So even when we know that there is nothing good about it, we go for it. And why do we do that? Well, you could ask yourselves that.
Why was I holding on to something that would never be mine? But isn’t that what people do?
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