When he's still in love with his ex!!

First of all, he’ll assure you that he is over her. But the truth is that he’ll never be able to forgive her for crushing his heart into tiny little pieces. And then, you’ll try to prove yourself that he can’t still be in love with someone who left him like that. Somewhere deep down, you know that you are better for him, better than her and he knows that too. So, you plunge into each other, both hoping that this new amour will help him forget about her.

You guys will have fun together. You’ll go on dates and laugh and meet each other’s friends and of course, you’ll get drunk. And then, you’ll think that possibly, just mayhap, this could work out the way you wanted. But the only time he’ll get even close to divulge or open up to you is when he is drunk or high, and even then, he only lets you in superficially.

You’ll start wanting more of him. You knew you would have to wait for him to come around, but days have passed and everything is still phony; something just doesn’t seem right. It yearns to heal his broken heart. You thought he’d be ready to move on by now, but he’s just not. The times her name comes up unlikely in a conversation, you see the passing pang of pain flutter in his eyes. His hurt hurts you. What hurts furthermore, is to know that he wants to be over her as badly as you do, but something just keeps him clinging on. She’ll always be the one that "mattered the most".

His emotional distance makes you hold your ground even harder as you resist the fact that this man is so close to being yours—that probably if you guys had met at a different time or place or universe, things might’ve been different. All you want to be is adequate, but you will never be adequate because YOU WILL NEVER BE HER. And it won’t matter how good of a person you are, or how attuned you are, or how well you treat him or how good a company you are to him, he’ll never love you the way he loves her.

So, after what feels like a lifetime of persistent efforts of trying to conquest over this man’s heart, it’ll finally set-in and you’ll start accepting the reality: he is still in love with his ex-girlfriend, and you cannot change that. Yes, it’ll hurt. You will punch yourself a thousand times for trying to mend his shattered heart, for getting involved with him when you should’ve known better.

Maybe he’ll get back with her someday and they’ll live happily ever after… Or maybe he’ll move on from her on his own terms in a few weeks’ time or maybe months… and maybe you will then get one more chance with him when the timing is finally right.

As they say, the two most important things you need for love: chemistry and timing.

But TIMING is a BITCH!!